There’s a good ol’ saying that you should be the change you seek. Be the change you want to see in the world or be the person you expect others to be. It’s a fool proof saying and it couldn’t be truer. The easiest way to solve a problem is to narrow it down to its source. It’s a simple cycle. To change the world, the change has to begin with you. To change yourself, the change has to begin in you.
Every person is a complete being. There are many aspects to your existence and each aspect plays a vital role that sums up your personality and temperament. Your personality is who you are. It can be affected by genetics and environment but you are a huge part of who you want to be.
To elicit a change in a person, or rather to grow as a person, it is best to begin on the inside where it matters. Ask yourself these questions to begin:
- Who am I?
- What qualities do I possess?
- What is my character like?
- Who do I want to be?
For you to grow as an individual, there has to be a before, which you already are, and an after, where you’re headed to. With these in mind, it become easy to transit and plan out what you should do. One of the biggest issues with the youths of today is Identity Crisis.
“He who knows others is wise; he who knows himself is enlightened.”
― Lao Tzu
It’s the same reason people walk into relationships and then walk out. Their reason? They need to find themselves. This issue arises because we define ourselves based on people’s perception, remarks and societal standards of what our ideal should be. Your first step should be your personality type. You can learn more and even take the test here.
“Your own Self-Realization is the greatest service you can render the world.”
― Ramana Maharshi
Every personality has it’s strengths and weaknesses. Focus on your strengths and strengthen your weaknesses. No-on ever excelled by complaining about their weaknesses. Work on them till they become strengths. Sometimes, what we call ‘weaknesses’ may be the strength you’ll need one day. Where brute force failed, love prevailed. Yet love is sometimes seen as a weak emotion.
Read books. Technology has made access to everything so much easier. Find books to help you grow. Become a better individual. Saying things like ‘this is the way I am’ or ‘this is the way I was made’ will take you nowhere. Those are just excuses. It never helped anyone.
Every aspect of your being is what makes you unique. The way you speak, handle situations, the way you interact with people and the way you carry yourself. If you want to achieve anything in life, you have to grow. I always say ‘Growth takes time‘ so start yesterday. Don’t be so focused on one aspect of your life like school or college or making money that you neglect every other aspect. Be a well rounded individual. Start the change within and watch everything else change.
I hope this was useful to you. Please share with a friend.
P.S I recommend reading How To Win Friends And Influence People by Dale Carnegie. In fact, read all his books. It’ll do you good