25 Things to do before you turn 25

I know you think bucket lists are lame. This isn’t a bucket list. It’s merely a reminder of things that seem so trivial, you may not have time for or you’re just too busy for. It’s so you remember that life is more than just responsibilities. Here you go:

  1. Fall in love –  You get one shot at being young and silly before you grow up and become all mature.
  2. Go outside your comfort zone – You’re more reckless when you’re young, use whatever is left of your teenage rebellion to good use.
  3. Read a book – The phone screen is not good for your eyes anyway.
  4. Spend a day without any technology – You’ll appreciate the tons of notifications later.
  5. Go abroad – As soon as you have the money to.
  6. Go skinny dipping – At night please, the warm ocean feels awesome against bare skin.
  7. Road trip – With friends, is awesome. After now, you’ll be too busy.
  8. Kiss someone on Midnight’s Eve – Someone you’re allowed to, please.
  9. Sleep under the stars – Connect with nature.
  10. Have a meaningful conversation with a stranger – Be an unforgettable stranger
  11. Learn to play your favorite song on an instrument – Even if it’s just for show-off
  12. Learn a foreign language – It adds a certain je ne sais quoi
  13. Play in the rain – Connect with your inner child.
  14. Do something you love alone.
  15. Eat in a different language – You’ll have a good or bad story.
  16. Learn about yourself -Best investment in yourself.
  17. Do something you’re afraid of.
  18. Stop depending on your parents  for money – Before adulthood hits you like a truck.
  19. Attend a concert for an artist/band you love
  20. Start a journal and track your goals as you grow.
  21. Open a savings account and actually save.
  22. Wear an outfit you love that isn’t in style
  23. Turn off your social media for a period of time
  24. Chase your dreams.
  25. Change your look. Cut your hair, dye it.

Dear 2016

Thank you. Six months before now I wouldn’t believe I’d think those words let alone say them, but here we are. Thank you for driving me crazy. Thank you for breaking me one too many times than I thought necessary. Thank you for giving me a rude awakening.

I spent 2015 in my shell, no matter how much she (2015) tried, I stayed put. I didn’t deem it necessary and I couldn’t be convinced different. I was a hermit and I found solace only in the deafening sound of my loneliness. I was given friends, but sooner or later they gave up on the idea of me being any different from who I already was. I thought they made a wise decision. I, however had one person who fought through the walls and one other who I let in willingly but only because I felt like they were as broken as I was. I wasn’t wrong but I wasn’t right either. I hid behind harsh remarks and cold replies, when I was pressured for more, I resorted to the classic “you wouldn’t understand” and that worked perfectly fine.

The whole year passed and then I met you. Steel cut, hard-headed you.  You didn’t let the festivities die down and you hit me hard. Matter of fact, you hit me from December. You hit me right at the core. I was financially broken but I kept my head up thinking ” There’s always light at the end of the tunnel”. Silly me! February rolled in and I was excited as it was supposed to be lovers month. I got the opposite of love. I got kicked out. When I ran to “they” whom I thought would hold me up, I realized they weren’t available.At least that’s what I was told. I walked away even more broken than before but I was even more determined to change the story.

I thought I did. I made a couple new friends as I’d drifted too far from the older ones. When I was finally at peace and happy, I caused a stir. Apparently my presence had caused an imbalance somewhere and had rippled back to me. I was sad, only this time, angry too. I withdrew even more as I fought to get back to what used to be my comfort zone. I couldn’t find it. I was alone. Not literally, but just far enough that no-one could find me. I had drifted far from God. It was as if I didn’t want Him to save me. I wanted to dwell in the darkness because it was constant and familiar. It didn’t help. I needed Him more than ever but I kept giving up on finding Him. Before I knew it , I was in a different circle and I began to laugh again, though not enough to let anyone know me. Life happened and I was torn again from that circle. I decided to be a lone owl rather than in a wolf pack.

In my solitude, I found someone breaking in, God sent to me. I guess God found me first. I tried to fight, but how was I to know I was fighting against a spartan. There was no retreat nor surrender. I was tough but not that tough. I had to give in and thank heaven I did. It was only then I realized what you’d be doing all along. I had to let go completely and not be my overly cautious self. I had to be broken and burnt to rise from the ashes like a phoenix. My friends hadn’t been far off, I just had to turn around to see them. Some did leave, for good but even to those, I’m grateful.

I became a new person, a better person. I had a rude awakening which I owe only to you. For all I lost and all I gained, the result was worth the wait. I owe you my gratitude for being hard-core. I needed to know the world was more than rainbows. Most of all, thank you for my Christmas gift that came quite early. I guess you had a soft side after all or maybe I just deserved it. We’ll never meet again but I’ll definitely tell the others about you. YOu were the climax to a story I didn’t even know was being written.